I didn’t feel good, so I made my way,reluctantly, for home just after evening on New Year’s Eve; And as was usual when on my way back from the Lake, I stopped at the small grocery store in town. Then as I walked in, this lady, no; this woman and a little boy were coming up behind me. I noticed the woman snatching the boy’s hand as she scolded him, “bring your G__ D___ a__ on.” The woman and child walked by me and as she did I heard part of another statement that said “f___ her.” I instantly thought, “Oh Lord, why? In a public place and with her two-year-old?” How much worse would/could the verbal abuse be in private or around the other family members where they lived?
After going in the store I walked past her again at the cold cut cooler, when she once again snatched her child along, as she was, visibly, a bit more upset than I first thought. When she got by me again and took the lead, she said, “God d___ it, that’s a F_____g shame”. I was at that time 20 to 30 feet away with my facing her back, and I whispered, “it sure is”., I said it at a level where she could have heard it but probably didn’t, and I didn’t care if she did or not. And I spoke out my next thougfht, “especially for him.”
I got to thinking/ praying right there, ‘Lord you know I hate the N-word and always have; also that it can and does fit with any race/ creed; that if anybody fits the bill for these moments, the behavior and her words, certainly she does. This little woman, who had so suddenly upset me would have been quite pretty if it were not for the angry look on her face and the large chip protruding from her shirt in the shoulder area.. I felt so bad for the child I felt like crying and I would have if I were the crying type. Really, I almost envy the men who can and do cry; I believe it’s like a safety pressure valve, that lets off dangerous pressures inside.
This woman shamelessly showed her disregard for her own child in her disrespect for every one in the store, her disrespect for herself and the child, and especially her disrespect for God! She was obviously displeased about something, as she was taking it out on the child.
You know, it is quite likely she has a terrible life at home, but with her behavior being so uncivilized, space I found it hard to sympathize with her; for the most part, this lady had made her own decisions in life and was stuck with them. On the contrary, I found instant sympathy for her two-year-old. What kind of future will this child have? I could see him by the age of 12 being in a gang if there were any around, just to get out of the house, and escape the abuses he had to endure. And from what I hear about gangs they treat their members well, much better than their respective families treated them when at home. But, with the wrong examples’ influences I can see the boy by age 15, if he lives to age 15, having learned a lot life in jail is like, and maybe even prison.
I almost forgot what I went to into the store for, for worrying about this child, and others like him. Again, I don’t know what kind of stress this lady could’ve been living under at home, but it certainly wasn’t the child’s fault. Or is it? If the woman ( I refuse to call her a lady, just from her language and disrespect) (and this is my opinion, as well as many others) is like many hundreds of thousands of women who aren’t married, and seem to be unable to keep a man, and is one of the welfare system’s recipients, she is just having babies to increase her paycheck. But along with every increase of her money comes another responsibility that is unwanted. A shame, really, but that is the hard truth, that when MANY of these government dependent people have the kids that are their lifeline, they also resent them because they wanted the money, but they wanted it without ties and children are ties PLUS. She can no longer just take off for a weekend, even if she could afford to do so. The bar hopping has been all but cut out. The woman that does this type thing can usually get a baby-sitter for one, maybe two children, again, if she can afford it; but she soon finds out that it’s really tough finding someone to keep 3, 4 children, especially if it’s for swapping out favors. The woman in this case, probably couldn’t keep her side of the favor swapping deal anyway, and wouldn’t want to.
These women who have children just so they can live off of the government, no, live off of us tax-payers, should have a little too much pride to do this or at least some self-respect. They should do this the grown-up way, or the old-fashioned way, the way God intended (take your choice; mine is the latter and a couple others) and that is to wait for sex until you get married (God’s way), start building your lives together and then start planning your having children together. And the biggest thing, in my book, is to let Jesus into your lives to start with, before the marriage. That way, both partners have an advocate with the Father when they want to pray, when they have problems- He’ll be there for you both. Stats back up Christians as having longer, happier marriages, lives, better adapted and behaved children; they live longer and have much better self-esteem. This should be a subject all its own, so I won’t go any farther with this- I’ll get off topic too. So…
I wonder if beauty is Really in the eye of the beholder; and if it is, then could there be anyone, besides God, that could find this can-be-attractive ghetto Mom beautiful? And yes, that’s an assumption that she resides there, in the worse part of town or the projects, when there is a possibility that she lives in a mansion or very nice abode. After all, I know people that are well off financially who have ‘trailer trash’ mouths, who prefer to speak curses rather than blessings. These well-to-do types are the same people that lie, cheat and steal to increase their monetary positions, and who really don’t consider the poor and needy. They show this by their contempt for charities, and giving to help feed, clothe the poor of this world they live in. There are people here and in other countries that do need help from the government (the tax-payers), not because they keep having children out-of-wedlock, but because of sickness, raising a child with a disability, they become disabled after working many years, etc. For those that live here in the U.S., they should be thankful that they can get some help; thankful to God. But those kinds of people are in the minority; it seems that very few are satisfied- the rich want to be richer, the poor want what the rich have, and the middle class are torn between. Bad behavior is not reserved for any particular class of people.
It goes to show there are Real Scrooges in every walk of life. Bad/ wrong decisions early in life are usually the culprit, but hardly any see it this way. The majority want to blame others for their problems in life, even if it comes down, way down, to blaming one’s own children. I say, ‘good luck with that’!
As usual-
‘MAY’
24 The LORD bless thee, and keep thee:
25 The LORD make his face shine upon thee, and be gracious unto thee:
26 The LORD lift up his countenance upon thee, and give thee peace.
Numbers 6